Open Letter To Andrew Tate
Being A Father Is Your Most Important Job
Dear Andrew Tate,
I respect your boldness in challenging government overreach and your outspoken stance against pornography. Your emphasis on self-belief, physical fitness, and personal defense inspires many. Your public embrace of Islam, shared in interviews like your 2022 podcast with Patrick Bet-David, reflects a meaningful journey. While I celebrate your strengths, I have concerns about your views on women and parenting, which may impact the legacy you’re building. As a father, I offer these thoughts to encourage reflection.
I take some of your more extreme comments about women as off color humor and tactical PR, not as a reflection of your true thoughts. Your social media content often showcases women who prioritize appearance—frequently highlighting cosmetic enhancements like lip fillers or breast implants. While personal choices in partners are yours to make, selecting mothers for your children based primarily on looks raises questions.
Intelligence, kindness, and shared values are critical for raising children who embody the principles you admire, such as discipline and resilience. Studies, like those from the American Psychological Association (2018), strongly suggest intelligence has a genetic component. If you prioritize appearance over intellectual or moral depth, you might limit the potential of your children. I trust you’ve considered this, but your public image suggests otherwise. Are these women aligned with the values you hope to instill in your family?
You’ve advocated for large families, stating in a 2024 X post, “Every man must build a dynasty.” This ambition is admirable, but raising children demands more than resources and occasional involvement. Child development research, such as a 2020 study in Child Development, highlights that consistent parental presence—especially from fathers after age ten—shapes emotional and social growth.
While you may provide elite schools or lavish vacations, children need daily guidance. Your jet-setting lifestyle, as seen in your frequent travel posts, suggests limited time at home. Outsourcing parenting to nannies or schools risks leaving gaps in your children’s lives. I’ve found no greater joy than watching my children succeed, and no deeper pain than their struggles. You must be present through their highs and lows.
I don’t presume to know your private life. You may have chosen exceptional women who share your vision for family. You might be planning to scale back work to prioritize your children as they get older. If so, you’re ahead of the curve. But if I could have offered you advice before you began this journey, I would have suggested focusing on one exceptional partner to build a large family. This model, while less flashy and exciting, maximizes stability and shared values, increasing the odds of raising children who make you proud as adults.
Your influence is undeniable. You’ve built a platform that reaches millions. By modeling thoughtful partner selection and hands-on parenting, you could redefine what it means to “build a dynasty.” Your social media posts reveal that your father was a true inspiration for you. It was from reading your posts on X of your father’s text messages and emails to you that I knew the core of your message was sincere. You have to be that same inspiration to your children and hopefully even better than your dad. This is best accomplished by maintaining a consistent presence in their lives and limiting all distractions. Managing multiple partners as mothers may complicate your ability to focus on parenting. Being a father gets harder with time and there are no short cuts.
Good luck Brother.